Phil and Lesley
Phil and Lesley were both in their 20’s. Phil had had an affair and had left Lesley shortly after their baby’s birth. This left Lesley in a dreadful position as she was very deeply hurt and felt abandoned by Phil. Phil however wanted to maintain a relationship with his daughter but felt that Lesley was being unnecessarily obstructive. Things had been difficult in the months following their separation but had now come to a head because Phil wanted to extend his contact. Lesley felt that Phil’s behaviour had been irresponsible and did not trust him with their child. This had led to frequent arguments and breakdown of communication.
During mediation the mediators worked with Phil and Lesley to help them understand each other’s position and focus on the needs of their child rather then themselves. Over a number of sessions their communication improved and Lesley felt able to trust Phil and allow him to see their child for longer periods. There has been a significant improvement in the communication between Phil & Lesley who are now able to put their personal differences aside and look forward to their child’s future.
“I would like to thank both you and Lucy for such a positive experience, despite the outcome not being as I had hoped. You were both so very kind and I have already recommended your service to a family. One thing I lacked before I cam was the understanding/knowledge that I would be treated fairly in this process. It was so positive and the experience very “gentle” and thoughtful.”