Mark and Michelle
Mark and Michelle had separated six months before coming to mediation. Michelle had left with their two children and was now living with another man in his home. Mark had remained in their family home. The children came to stay with him regularly.
As the months passed, Mark became increasingly concerned about the arrangement. When staying with him the children had said things which had concerned him about his wife’s new partner and the attention which the children were getting in their new home. Mark now felt that the children would be better off living with him in their former family home and was proposing to apply for a Residence Order that the children live with him rather than Michelle. He and Michelle came to mediation to try to resolve matters before issuing Court proceedings. Both were convinced that they were able to give their children a better home and that their children would be happier with them. I spent several sessions helping Mark and Michelle to talk about their children and share their hopes and fears for them. It was apparent that both parents loved their children very dearly and were able to offer them a supportive environment. During the course of the mediation I met with the children and talked to them about the situation. I was able to tell Mark and Michelle what their children had said which helped them to focus more on their children’s needs and wishes.
In the end after much discussion, Mark and Michelle were able to agree an arrangement whereby the children spent similar amounts of time with each of them. They were also able to discuss at length the practical arrangements which would need to be made for this to work. Court proceedings were avoided and the family was able to build better relationships in the future.
“I would like to thank both you and Lucy for such a positive experience, despite the outcome not being as I had hoped. You were both so very kind and I have already recommended your service to a family. One thing I lacked before I cam was the understanding/knowledge that I would be treated fairly in this process. It was so positive and the experience very “gentle” and thoughtful.”