John and Sheila
John and Sheila were still living together in their family home when they came to mediation. They had two children aged 7 and 10. The couple had been together for 15 years, however, over time they had grown apart and Sheila felt that their marriage was over and wanted John to leave. John, on the other hand, wanted to rebuild their relationship and stay together particularly as they had young children.
They began by talking though their thoughts about the relationship and how things have changed over the years. Sheila felt that they no longer had a loving relationship and it felt like more of a friendship. Unfortunately, Sheila had fallen out of love with John. As John listened to Sheila he came to understand her position and reluctantly accepted that separation was inevitable.
John was particularly concerned about his relationship with his children whilst Sheila was anxious about her financial security. This was clearly a stressful and emotional time for the couple however, they were anxious to minimise the affect their separation had on their young children. By examining their financial position carefully, they were able to consider the economies which would be necessary if they were to live apart and how they both might manage.
Whilst agreeing that the children should stay with Sheila in the family home, Sheila was able to reassure John about the arrangements that they could make for him to see as much of the children as possible. John, for his part, was able to offer Sheila financial support which would enable her to stay in their family home with their children. By highlighting and discussing the issues in their relationship, John and Sheila were also able to rationally decide how to go about their separation and talk about their future Divorce.
“I would like to thank both you and Lucy for such a positive experience, despite the outcome not being as I had hoped. You were both so very kind and I have already recommended your service to a family. One thing I lacked before I cam was the understanding/knowledge that I would be treated fairly in this process. It was so positive and the experience very “gentle” and thoughtful.”